• -You fall in love and double your wardrobe.

• -Feeling the softness of a womyns skin.

• -Enjoying the sensitivity and kinship of other lesbians and gays.

• -Being a part of an evolving, diverse, colourful, inspirational and creative worldwide community/family.

• -Increased self esteem from living honestly.

• -You don't have to shave, style your hair, paint your nails or conform to any of that society-induced bullshit if you don't feel like it.

• -When you have your period, your partner can empathize, rather than patronize.

• -The sex!

• -Feeling the deep emotional bond that is reciprocated.

• -Your partner is able to understand, intrinsically, what is it to be female and be subjected to sexism, and she's most likely a feminist too.

• -Being outside the 'mainstream'.

• -Shocking and confronting people with their own prejudices.

• -The opportunity to proudly participate in Mardi Gras, Gay Pride and Community events.

• -Cuddling, holding and caressing, and not just as 'foreplay'

• -Experiencing a relationship, and deep love, on so many levels... Emotional, Spiritual, Romantic, Sexual and Friendship, with your partner.

And the worst:

• -We're still fighting for our basic civil rights.

• -Men 'getting off' on the idea of your sexual orientation **ewwww!!**

• -Having to 'out' yourself constantly.

• -Never knowing 'for sure' if someone you're talking to is also gay.