FLYING SOLO!!
Ok ladies, let’s have a look at some different techniques that will work to get you off when your playing 'solo'.
Direct
clitoral stimulation:
A
lot
of wimmin can only attain orgasm through manual stimulation, so here are some
techniques that might add a little variety to your masturbation play.
Rolling,
rolling, rolling –
For this technique you need to place your thumb and forefinger around the
clitoris and gently roll it in between your fingers. You can start off with a
slow gentle roll and then gradually pick up the pace and the pressure according
to what feels good to you.
Circular
rub –
I generally find that if I am in a hurry this technique works wonders. Just take
your first two fingers from either hand and place them over top of you clitoris.
Then begin moving them in a circular motion over top of the clitoris. You can
vary the speed and pressure easily with this technique. If you want to change
the feel slightly just add your favourite lube and everything becomes very
slippery.
Combination
–
It can also be delicious fun to use a combination of both hands. Have your
fingers from one hand playing with your clitoris, stimulating it however you
wish.
Take the other hand and place two or three fingers inside your vagina and begin
thrusting. You’re simulating to areas with this action and it works rather
nicely in tandem to bring you to a rocking orgasm!
Waterworks:
Water is
your friend. It can be used in a multitude of ways to get you off! Try these
out.
**Please
avoid sending strong streams of water directly into your vagina as that can be
potentially dangerous.
Running
Water –
I’m sure you’ve all stuck your hands under the water flow when you’re
filling the tub for your bath to check the temperature of the water. Now, just
imagine that same water flow landing on your clitoris!!!
It’s a wild
feeling...
The only thing you need for this one is some time and a bathtub. Hopefully your bathtub will be shaped properly so that you can slide your butt down against the end of the tub and position yourself so that the water flow will land on your clitoris.
It’s
best to start of with a lighter water flow and gradually work up to a higher
pressure flow. Make sure that you test the warmth of the water before sticking
your pussy under it, wouldn’t want to get scalded in that area!!!
Water
Spray –
This on is just a bit of a variation on the one above.
In this instance just place your thumb or finger over the faucet and then direct
the spray so that it falls directly on your clitoris.
Shower
Massage –
This is a great one if you’ve got one of those Shower Massage devices because
you can pick whether it pulses or comes out in a steady spray. There are many
options. You’ll have to experiment with them to see what works best for you.
Here again, you can adjust the pressure and temperature of the spray to whatever
you’d like them to be. Also, cold water produces a different sensation than
warm water.
Jacuzzi
Jive –
If you’re lucky, you will have private access to a Spa Bath and you’ll be
able to take advantage of the water flow from the jets!
This is one to be careful with since the flow of water from the jets has considerably more pressure behind it than that from the shower or bathtub.
Start
a fair distance back from the jets and then move yourself closer to find the
pressure level that works for you. All you need to do is position yourself so
that the water flow lands directly on your vagina and clitoris. Once you’ve
found the right spot let yourself go, enjoy the warm water and indulge!!
Good
Vibrations:
Vibrators are handy little gadgets and in my opinion every womyn should have one tucked away in a drawer for those moments when you really 'need' it.
Vibrators
are primarily used for clitoral stimulation but can also be used vaginally or
anally if you prefer. You can try different combinations out to see which you
like best.
Clit
rub –
Vibrators are great for clitoral control since you can change alter the speed of
the vibration easily and bring yourself to the edge and then slow it down
again.
Pressure
is a key factor as well. You may also want to try rubbing the vibrator over your
inner thighs and around your pussy lips and even up over your nipples.
Masturbation doesn’t have to be confined to just the clitoral area.
Dildos:
A good
dildo will provide you with hours of entertainment for when you’re going solo and
when you’ve got a partner to play with!
It’s
well worth spending the money to get a good one that’s going to last for a
long time.
You want to make sure that the surface is easily cleaned. Some of the latex ones
had pores in them which made them very difficult to keep clean.
There
are some really great gel dildos on the market these days. Check out your local
love shop, or the net for mail order if you prefer, and see what they have to
offer. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
External
Stimulation –
Using the dildo on the outside of your body is probably the easiest way to do
things to start off with.
Here are a couple of ideas to get you started...
Apply
some lube to the dildo and lay it flat on a hard chair, then position yourself
above it and sit down so that the dildo runs the full length from the crack of
your ass all the way up to your clit and slide yourself back and forth on it.
This will provide all kinds of stimulation.
Head
–
You can also use the tip of the dildo and rub it against your clitoris. By
applying pressure and moving the head over your clitoris in an up and down or
circular motion, you can provide great stimulation to the clit.
On
the other hand just using light pressure will take you longer to reach the
climax but the result will be a more intense orgasm. For better control, you may
find it easier to use two hands to grip the dildo.
Internal
Stimulation –
The dildo also does a wonderful job when inserted into the vagina as well.
Such a multipurpose kind of toy!! *grin*
One
of the things you need to consider is the size of your dildo, it doesn’t have
to be a huge monster to be effective. Simply find one that is wide enough to be
snug inside your vagina and longer than what you need to insert, as you have to
have something to hold onto.
'Double-enders' are great, and also have the versatility of being able to be
used by TWO!
Find
a comfortable position to be in while you play. Insert the dildo into your
vagina and then begin moving it in an in and out fashion, or maybe with a slight
twist, depending on your preference.
Depth of the thrusts is entirely dependent on how you feel, and the sensation
will be different at different depths.
Once you’ve established a bit of a rhythm start rubbing or stroking your
clitoris in time with the strokes.
If you want something a little different try positioning the dildo so that when
it moves in and out it will pull a bit and stimulate the clitoris that way.
Double
Up –
Dildos come in many shapes
and sizes so you can get whatever you’d like. You might also want to consider
purchasing a dual/duet dildo.
This will enable you to insert one end into your vagina
and the other end into your anus. This way you have double the thrusting
pleasure while you stimulate your clit.
You can also combine the use of a
vibrator in one spot and a dildo in the other. The combinations are only limited by
your imagination.
Thigh Squeeze – There are wimmin out there who can achieve orgasm by simply squeezing or rubbing their thighs together. This stimulates the clitoris indirectly.
It would be a great skill to have, then if you were out in public and found yourself getting horny you could just take care of it by squeezing your thighs together, no one would be any the wiser, except maybe those people who are reading this. *grin*
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